If we grow a lettuce, but it doesn’t do so well, we don’t blame the lettuce. We look to see why it’s not doing so well – maybe we water it, or compost it, give it more or less light, shield it from pests. But whatever we do, we don’t blame the lettuce.
“If you listen closely, you will hear a small voice hidden in the dim shade of all your fears that whispers ‘this isn’t real’ “
Rarely, if ever, does an empathic response start with “At least…”
It is not reassuring or supportive to try to make someone feel that ‘it could have been worse’!